The Root of the Problem!

Self-worth; the root of the problem.  
       This is a big one. Self-worth, at its very core, is defined as how much value you have for yourself. 
         I think that as girls and women, this is our biggest problem. I don't think we have enough self-worth, or maybe we just measure it wrong.


There was a point in my life where I started to realize more and more that I put a lot of my value on my looks. I was measuring my own worth by how "hot" I thought I was on that particular day. I was letting the mirror define my own worth. I was letting my outside dictate how I felt about my inside. 
I think a lot of girls do that...
                                                   I think we do that a lot.
We tend to value ourselves based on how we think we look, or how others think we look. I think this is our downfall. So let's dig into this idea little more, what do we use to measure our worth? That was the first question I had to ask myself;
 Am I measuring myself on how intelligent I am? 
Am I measuring myself on how kind I am? 
Am I measuring myself on how much of a great friend I am?


Or am I measuring myself on how hot I think I am? 
Am I measuring myself on how many guys look at me?
Am I measuring myself on how cliques look at me? 

You have more to offer than
                   looks, popularity, or attention from guys.
These three things evolve around what we look like. Sometimes we tend to value our looks over our personality. Sometimes we measure our self-worth on things that have nothing to do with us as a person.  
You have more to offer than looks! 

As a matter of fact, you have a LOT more to offer than perfect skin, eyebrows, nose, hair, boobs, butt, waistline, shoes, cloths, makeup, and hight. 

You are creative!

You are strong!

You are intelligent!

You are musical!

You are kind!

You are athletic!

You have far more to offer this world than your outside shell! 

You have more to offer than what you see looking back at you in the mirror. 

What you see in the mirror is not, I repeat NOT who you are.

Don't let the mirror, and societies standards dictate who you are as a person. 

I am MORE than what I look like, and so are you. 
In this new year, maybe we can make a resolution to increase our self-worth, and measure it on things that are important to our hearts.
I prayed and thought about this a lot, and I think there are a 3 ways that TOGETHER we can achieve this! 

1. We can start valuing personality traits in others, not just their looks. I bet that if I complimented someone on their kindness, it would mean more than if I said, "You have nice hair."
2. We have to stop comparing ourselves to people we think are better looking. As women we do that a lot, but it only makes us feel bad. How can we work on self-worth when were too busy comparing?
3. WE NEED TO STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK! We need to stop this. I know this is SUPER corny, and people say to do it ALL the time, but it REALLY works! Every time you think something negative about yourself, say THREE positive things about yourself! :) 

Together I know we can achieve this! If you try any of these tips and it worked OR you have some tips of your own *PLEAE FEEL FREE TO COMMENT ON THE BOTTOM OR E-MAIL

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